I have so much to talk (or complain) about when it comes to Daven's upbringing. So much that I cannot even be bothered to do anything about it now, since anything I do wouldnt make any difference.

One of the things I would like my child to learn is independance. For my, and their own sake. You can watch them from afar while they are playing on their own, and you can do your own things. Trusting them to keep their own toys after playing (of course, you have to teach them first).

I believe potty train would be part of the independance in a child too. It's fine if they need a little help here and there, but at least they are trying to do things on their own and they would be proud of themselves if they did it right.

It's almost like I rather teach them to fish, rather than giving them the fish.

When Daven was younger, he couldnt even climb into his motor car on his own. So whenever he wanted to get into the car, EVERYONE in the family would carry him in. By everyone, I mean like Alice, Felicia, Benben (those I've seen them carrying him in).

But for me, I wouldnt interfer until necessary (like he was going to fall over or dangerous things like that). I would even ask if he needed my help(sign) and support him from the back to help him get in the car on his own. After a few times, he climbed in all by himself, I wasnt all surprised but I think Alice was, thinking that it happened all of the sudden.

Something I learnt from Daven is that having a child is just like having a puppy (and he always remind me of Shasha). They are fun to play with, nice to hug, and happy to see you all of the time. But whenever they do something wrong (or you dont want them to do), you have no one else to blame other than yourself. Well, because you didnt teach what has to be taught.

Now, whenever Daven doesnt get his way, he would cry and yell so loud to make sure he gets it, and gets it now. Alice would always go on saying, he's like that. But I would think inside me, he was taught to be like that (since children can easily learn how loud they has to go before they get their way.)

But I'm thankful to say that he is not like that around me, since I believe he understand that when I say something is not for him, it's not for him. He may still get angry about it, but he will not cry or yell or demand it. He would probably walk away or find something else to play with.

But on some rare occasion where he really cry loud and yell and demand (usually in the living room or outside where he knows someone is bound to give in), it's almost impossible to discipline him. Since there will always be someone who say "Just give it to him to make him stop crying.", and that is always the theory that makes Daven demand for everything.

It's so irony that I can talk so much about it here and do nothing at all at home. But it's just how things are now. When anyone tries to take control over my matters, I would just give it up, and dont give a damn from then on. That's who I am, and if you cant live with it, then live out of it.